what I want

Hello, I'm still here. Things have been a bit quiet on the kink front, and I find I'm thinking about other aspects of my life more at the moment. So here's another post from the draft stock - I had labeled it "unfinished" but now I can't remember what else I wanted to say. So here it is, just a little teaser, somewhat short on the details of the sort I actually wanted from Rafe.

We were hanging out with friends, and I commented that it was hard to get Rafe to tell me what he wants/likes while playing. He replied that I didn't tell him that either, at which point I said (while leaving the room) "You never ask."

This prompted speculation in my absence about what I might want, and when I rejoined the conversation I found I wasn't prepared to discuss it there, then.

So, some thoughts.

When we were discussing the possibility of playing, I told Tim that what I wanted was to feel dominated and cared for. Both.

Physically and sexually dominated. Somewhat able to move but made to be still and subjected to directed attention. Things like having my head pulled back by my hair. Not in control of my responses, not able to direct the outcome.

Cared for. Held, kissed, complimented. Affirmed.

Both are important; they balance each other.